Teori Perkembangan Tahap Hubungan Romantis Sebagai Acuan Orang Tua Mendampingi Remaja Berpacaran

Farida Harahap
(Submitted 27 July 2023)
(Published 18 December 2023)

Abstract


Jika remaja memilih berpacaran apa yang sebaiknya dilakukan orang tua supaya perilaku berpacaran remaja tetap sehat dan aman? Teori perkembangan tahap hubungan romantis remaja dari Connolly et al. melihat perilaku pacaran remaja dari perspektif perkembangan yang positif dan pentingnya peran orang tua untuk membimbing remaja yang berpacaran. Apakah teori ini bisa diimplementasikan bagi orang tua di Indonesia? Sejauh ini, masih sedikit pembahasan mengenai bagaimana pendampingan orang tua Indonesia terhadap remaja yang berpacaran ditinjau dari teori perkembangan hubungan romantis. Artikel ini mengkaji teori perkembangan tahap hubungan romantis remaja dari Connolly et al. berdasarkan isi teori, pandangan di Indonesia mengenai pacaran dan bagaimana implementasi teori perkembangan tahap hubungan romantis remaja ini sebagai acuan bagi orang tua di Indonesia untuk mendampingi remaja yang berpacaran.

Keywords


hubungan romantis; pacaran; tahap hubungan romantis remaja

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DOI: 10.22146/buletinpsikologi.87386

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